Thoughts on dating an older man
I mean, I know: some cute college guy who spells his texts properly and actually seems to wash his face (be still my beating heart) can be pretty tough crush competition for the bros in your 10th grade math class.
And if there’s one thing of which I’m certain about you Rookies, it’s this: to borrow a compliment frequently expressed to you by your grandpa/kindly next-door neighbor/best friend’s mom, YOU ARE VERY MATURE FOR YOUR AGE.
It doesn’t mean you have “daddy issues” or whatever; that phrase doesn’t actually mean anything, because it can be applied (or, preferably, not) to every person on the planet.
Being attracted to someone older just means you are a human person who sometimes thinks other human people are sexy!
Before I get into the real nitty gritty, though, a few caveats.
First, being attracted to older guys is completely and totally normal.
By Amy Rose Spiegel One of the most frequent Just Wondering questions we get here at Rookie is some variation on the following: “I’m a teenager and I’m thinking about dating/am intensely attracted to a person who’s significantly older than me. ” Well, as someone who not only has always been interested in older dudes, but has also dated quite a few of them, I have some things to say about your situation, question-askers.
When I was 15, I was dating a 28-year-old (cue gasping).
Consider how different you are now from how you were two years ago—huge, right? Just as awesome, but with a radically different perspective on what happened in middle school, you know?I romanticized a story about an adult man kidnapping, molesting, and raping an adolescent girl.