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Which brings me to: Conundrum the first- To date or not to date?
Often in my life, I have found difficulty in trying to satisfy all three strands of my religious and cultural identity, particularly when it came to the opposite sex.
When a young person decides to get married, the following steps often take place: This type of focused courtship helps ensure the strength of the marriage by drawing upon family elders' wisdom and guidance in this important life decision.
Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.
I have studied my religion and taken from it the salient points that I wish to live my life by and pass on to my children.
I am not strict by any means but I’m pretty happy in my relationship with the big guy upstairs and that’s good enough for me.
Exposure to such strong female role models and, more notably, my own fiercely intelligent and academically accomplished mother, charged me with the most profound yearning to have a more deliberate hand in my future.
So, the traditional Pakistani and Muslim approach to marriage was never going to work for me.
In the first in a series of posts for e Harmony, she explores how dating doesn’t have to mean compromising your beliefs. For those of you that don’t know me, I am The Imposter.It wasn’t until I was in my teens that I even socialised with boys, at which point, there was quite a lot of ‘stare ahead silently and wide-eyed panic face hoping no one would talk to me’ going on.As first generation children born in Britain, I don’t think my parents knew how to handle socialising us with the opposite sex and so the matter was often dealt with the way it typically was in Pakistan and Islam, through segregation of the sexes.First of all, Muslim youth develop very close friendships with their same-sex peers.
This "sisterhood" or "brotherhood" that develops when they are young continues throughout their lives, and serves as a network to become familiar with other families.Rather, in Islamic culture, pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex is forbidden.